Things People Shouldn't Do

I’m back.  I haven’t been here for a hot minute.  You’re about to find out why.  I’ve been in hiding (and studying).

Sometimes I feel like I have so much to offer the world.  Just this past week I coached two people into following their passions and believing in themselves.

The outcomes?

They both got new careers and couldn’t be happier.

Pursuing passions and starting new careers are things people should do.

I think – and I’m surely not alone here –  there are many things I can strongly urge people shouldn’t do.

And thus, a new topic of conversation has been introduced to the blog.

Things people shouldn’t do.

Things People Shouldn't Do


What I’m going to tell you today would sound like common sense to most, but believe me, I used to think my common sense was stronger than my book smarts.

I thought this observation was accurate until I watched YouTube while holding scissors.

Yes, this past June, on one of my monthly trips down the YouTube Rabbit Hole, I did the very thing that I IMPLORE you not do.  I watched a tutorial on how to cut bangs (or, fringe as they say here in the UK), pulled out the scissors, and I cut my fucking hair.

Instant regret.  Even to this day, October 7th, I am reminded of this horrible life choice.

I won’t even show you a picture.  I will instead provide you with a visual aid to give you an idea what my hair looked like for approximately 45 days.

Things You Shouldn't Do

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The sad thing is, I have done this before.  MULTIPLE times.


Every time I think, “This time it will be different, I will look good” and then, yeah, never.

You know that famously misquoted saying, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results.”?  That’s me when it comes to bangs.

It’s maddening.

Things You Shouldn't Do (Cut Your Own Bangs)

I’m crazy when it comes to my hair.  But I don’t think I’m alone, and that is why I am making this public service announcement.

No matter how fantastic the YouTuber, DO NOT watch their tutorial on how to cut your own hair while holding scissors.

You will cut, and you could very possibly end up looking like shit.

Being held captive in your apartment for the entire summer, imprisoned by bobby pins.

And especially noteworthy:  If you live in a climate where it rains all the fucking time (like I do) DON’T do bangs/fringe.  You will get rained on, and you will look like Brett Michaels.

Heed my warning.

Expectation:  (I blame Zooey for this every single time.)

Things You Shouldn't Do

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Reality: (And I’m not even exaggerating in the slightest.)

Things You Shouldn't Do

Photo credit: Google

Any questions?

Visit a professional and let them talk you out of it.

The regrowth period.  Is.  Painful.


Oops!  I did it again.

Have you ever cut your own hair?  Did you regret it?  I still love YouTube, tho.





DIY Blonde Hair Toner

If you’re a blonde, you know the drama of keeping brassy tones out of your hair.

If you’re also anything like me, you have spent an extensive amount of time on Pinterest and YouTube trying to find the best and most cost-effective method of getting your hair the perfect tone.  I love a cooler, ash blonde tone, and this DIY toner I recently tried gives you just that.

Before you try this out, I will state the obvious:  I am NOT a professional. I will also warn you:  If your hair is SUPER dry (which, as a blonde, it most likely is), you’re going to want to prepare your hair for this toner with a deep conditioning treatment, like coconut oil, to avoid hair breakage and further damage.  I will further warn you, depending on the lightness of your blonde, your hair may have a lavender or purple hue to it.  I have some very, very light streaks (I mean like they are WHITE), and those will have a silver/lilac shade after ten minutes.

Bottom line:  Try at your discretion and start off leaving the toner on for the five minutes and add on additional time if need be.

For this DIY blonde hair toner, you’re going to need three items (*Depending on your hair length and thickness you may need more – it’s a 1:2 ratio of ACV to shampoo):

Add the ACV and purple shampoo into the spray bottle and shake to mix.  Apply the mixture with the spray bottle anywhere you want to tone your hair and leave on anywhere from 5-20 minutes depending on the condition of your hair.  ACV and purple shampoo can be very drying on their own, so that is why it is best to do a deep conditioning treatment before applying your DIY toner.

DIY Blonde Hair Toner +

After leaving the toner on for the desired amount of time, rinse the mixture and follow-up with a deep conditioner.  Rinse out the conditioner with water as COLD as you can stand it – this step is important as the ACV will have opened the hair up, absorbing the purple shampoo. So, the cold water will help to seal the hair back up and hold the toner in place longer.

You can repeat this treatment as needed but I would discourage you from doing it more than once a week, bi-monthly is probably best!

Again, I’m not a hair professional, but I know that this is the method that has worked best for me.  I wanted to avoid using a demi-permanent color and developer (such as Wella ColorCharm), and this DIY mixture gave me the closest results to that.

Being blonde is SO much fun, but being blonde is also SO demanding.

Aren’t all things that are worthwhile this way, though?

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Have you ever tried a DIY hair toner?  Do you struggle to keep your blonde hair bright?



Adore Me Swimwear

I have not always loved my body.  In fact, I have spent the overwhelming majority of my life being less than kind to myself.  Partly because I was indoctrinated into diet culture since childhood and have worked in the health and fitness industry for the past several years.  But also, because it is commonplace to believe that we all must adhere to the rules and standards of beauty created by industries designed to make us believe our bodies are not good enough. And these standards are being pushed onto women at younger ages than ever before as this recent magazine’s “bathing suit” chart proves.

I spent most of my teenage life (and a good portion of my twenties) wearing clothes that hid my body, and if I wasn’t doing that, I was wearing something over my clothes to protect my body from unwanted viewing.

However, there was one place that I never seemed to have any issue with losing the layers and that was at the beach.

Most people find the prospect of having to wear a swimsuit completely nerve racking and the ultimate in body exposure.   And, of course, why shouldn’t people feel anxiety about rocking a bathing suit?  The mainstream media has drilled it into our heads for literal decades that the only women who should be visible in a bikini are women with bodies that fit into a VERY specific mold.

In fact, I remember a particular yogurt company’s commercial and the “itsy bitsy teenie weenie yellow polka dot bikini” song, which had to be one of the most offensive weight loss ads in TV history.   It’s been years since I’ve seen that awful commercial, and I’m sure they come up with a new one each year because with every passing year comes another “bikini” season for them to cash in on.  Also, it’s technically called Summer the last time I checked.

My friends always found it funny that for somebody who dissected every inch of her physique with such unrelenting criticism that I would always be the first one to be excited to strip down to my swimwear with absolutely no hesitation.  Because despite all of my body hangups, I never felt ashamed or self-conscious in my bikini.    I love swimming, and I love the freedom of wearing my bikini.  I love the way it makes me feel so weightless and how the water feels splashing up against my tummy.  I love the ocean. In fact, even now, if you asked me where I would love to be if I could be anywhere it would be on a beach, in my bikini without a care in the world.  Not one.  Well, except maybe when I was going to receive my next margarita from!  Summertime is one of the most pleasurable times of the year, and nobody should have to feel they need to sit on the sidelines because their body doesn’t “fit” a b-s standard.  Once that time is gone, we can’t get it back, so we need to embrace our bodies and enjoy life right now.

That’s why I’m loving that more and more women are rejecting the idea that there’s only one type of body that is worthy of wearing sassy swimwear.  I love seeing women of all shapes and sizes rocking swimwear and redefining the “bikini body” for all of us! Many swimwear lines are taking notice of this growing and trend giving us all even more reason to love hitting the beach again!   I love the swimsuit collection by Adore Me. They carry affordable, cute, fresh swimwear ranging in sizes XS to 3X —  they totally want to see everybody taking advantage of the summertime!  My personal fave is the Keandra.

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Happy sun and fun, lovelies!




Best Purple Shampoo for Blondes


I love being a blonde but it is a high maintenance relationship.  I say this, and I’m not even a full-head platinum blonde.  One of the absolute staples any blonde (bottle or natural) will tell you is having an excellent colour-care shampoo and conditioner can make all the difference in the world.

I was super excited this weekend while I was shopping for some inexpensive bachelorette party accessories at Home Bargains when I discovered Creightons Sunshine Blonde with Argan Tone Correcting Shampoo & Conditioner.  It was £.99/bottle, so I thought even if it was absolute rubbish, what did I have to lose?  Right?

Best Violet Shampoo for Blondes

Picture via Beauty At Creightons

I currently use Clairol Shimmering Lights shampoo and Pro-Voke Touch of Silver Protein Conditioner and combined they are a great deal.  The Clairol shampoo I buy off Amazon because you cannot buy it anywhere in Glasgow and Pro-Voke is an excellent product and widely available in most grocery and drug stores.  By comparison, I have to say Creighton products make my hair feel softer and more manageable.  I have read many reviews for Shimmering Lights shampoo where people have complained about how the shampoo made their hair feel afterwards, and I have to agree that my hair feels parched after I wash with it.  The Shimmering Lights shampoo also has a very smack-down powerful scent to it.  I often go 2-3 days between shampoos and even through workouts and environmental elements, my hair still smells as strongly as the day of washing.

Now onto the Creightons products — which, I love.  Creightons Sunshine Blonde Tone Correcting Shampoo and Conditioner are also violet for combatting brassy tones and help brighten highlighted, bleached, and silver hair.  The smell is lovely and not as overpowering as the Shimmering Lights products, but I don’t love it as much as I love the scent of the Pro-Voke product line.  However, I’m not purchasing a blonde shampoo for the scent personally, but if a fragrance is important to you, the Creightons products smell great.

I applied a mixture of the shampoo and conditioner on my hair for 30 minutes before rinsing (something I do once a week with the Clairol and Pro-Voke products), and the difference in how my hair felt and looked was a total 180.  Also, I tend to freak, while using any purple shampoo product is that my hair will have patches of purple in it when I rinse, but it doesn’t.  However, if your hair is super platinum or white it probably will turn purple or silver!  Anyhoo, my blonde appeared to be much more of an ash tone, and I had no problem combing through it, and that’s rarely ever the case (the struggle of being blonde, am I right?).

For £2.00, I have to say my hair looked and felt better than it has in months.  I am not sure how often Home Bargains carries these products, but they are pretty affordable to buy online as well.  If you’re a blonde (and especially with Summer being around the corner), I highly recommend grabbing a few bottles of Creightons Sunshine Blonde Tone Correcting Shampoo and Conditioner to keep your locks bright, shiny, and gorgeous!

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Blondes, what’s your favourite brand of colour-care shampoo?  Have you tried any of the products mentioned in this post?

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